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How can I tell my family (white) that my boyfriend is black, if they aren’t as open-minded as I am?
My family are predominantly of the opinion that white people should date white people, black people should date black people. The races shouldn’t “mix.” How can I break the news to my boyfriend, who is black, so it doesn’t sound completely racist? How am I supposed to tell my family about him so that a huge brawl doesn’t happen? Is there a happy medium anywhere here?
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about 1 year ago
well just tell them that your dating a black guy and if they have a problem then say “screw you!!! you mother f*cking racists!!!!!!”
about 1 year ago
give them the book
i think its called
if you come softly?
by jacqueline woodson?
and leave the house a couple days
with a note saying to read it
about 1 year ago
Send them a telegram.
about 1 year ago
It’s not worth it, cuz in the end- he will just leave u for a life of poor abusive shambles while ur destined for greatness.
about 1 year ago
Racisim will always be a huge factor in America. Just tell him how your parents feel and how you feel, if he’s anything like me and the friends I know he will understand and just leave it to ignorance (not to insult your family). I don’t know what you would tell your parents though.
about 1 year ago
If you are still in high school I would keep this on the down low. If you’re out on your own tell them. If they don’t like it, screw them the world really doesn’t have room for that type of mentality anymore.
about 1 year ago
Just say “I like this guy alot and no matter what you say I’m gunna keep dating him cause he makes me happy…isn’t that what you want for me, to be happy??.” “Then give me your permission to date him…?”
That should work^_^
about 1 year ago
You should make your family feel really guilty. Tell them that if they love you they won’t care what race your boyfriend is just as long as you really love you. Also inform them that they are extremely uneducated and stuck in their ways if they still think that races shouldn’t mix. If all else fails, tell them that you don’t talk to racist people. But first just tell your boyfriend the truth. It’ll be even worse if he meets your family and they hate him for apparently no reason.
about 1 year ago
If your family is not open minded then their will never be a medium in the family and they will never accept your boyfriend.However,your dating him not your family,tell them if they do not accept him,then keep on with your life.
about 1 year ago
if hes your boyfriend he should already know u dont agree with your familys way of thinking as for your parents depending on your age simply put its your life youre gonna do waht u feel is best for you invite him over for dinner or to meet your family
about 1 year ago
i would tell yur bf first so he would know what to expect , im sure he wouldnt think yur racist because yu are dating him but i do think yu should tell him that even though yur family believes that whites should date whites and etc, that yu dont believe in that . it is your heart/body/mind whatever lol and whom yu choose to love is your choice. now im sure yur family will be angry maybe hurt at first but im sure they should get over it. if they see a nice black guy who treats their daughter right and is making her happy and thier is nothing they can do then im sure they will get use too it and may even start liking the guy. give it some time&space , things may get a little bumpy but prove to yur man yu aint going nowhere and prove to your family thier is nothing wrong with blacks dating whites vice versa. when yu are in love . and each one is treating the other one right. and if i may add in got a job. lol best of luck
about 1 year ago
Firstly, you’ve risen above the standards of your family, cheers to that!
And a happy medium? you mean appeasement? i’d take a more direct route.
Honestly tell your bf about how your parents are, why should he be offended? It’s below him I hope. And I think your parents should know about this special guy in their daughter’s life so if they squawk about it, wish them the strength to overcome their racism. (Although I would choose a word not so blunt, like sentiments or biased opinions.)
You don’t need to feel obligated to make both sides happy, just stay true ta yourself. I know it’s all easier said than done, so good luck!
about 1 year ago
well thats a hard one because my family is the exact same way i ended up with a white girl but mostly its up to your boyfriend he has a lot to work off black people in this society even if your bf isnt this way black people have earned themselves a bad rep. so there fore right off the bat your bf is going to show your family he has good manners and respect for everything and he has to put up with your family if he really likes you alot he will do watever it takes to impress your family have him dress properly too and haircut is always a good idea too